she started this lets be friends bit about 2 weeks before i went out there, which was also around the time she stopped generally commnicatying with me the way she had done before (ie at least an email a day, and chatting every night by aol)... she sent me yet another email again expressing her distress that i didnt "get" the whole she wants to be firneds thing, and i replied how can she expect us to be friends when she treats me like an enemy