"Does anyone like me?" (a discussion about fitting in)

[EmuNoviceUser]

This is the only large board I visit regularly (mostly just to read) where I am not well-known (I did not say "popular" especially, though I am hated nowhere to my knowledge). With the recent posts I have been reading about a particular member here, this seems the best forum to start this without bias views for or against me personally. I am rambling somewhat, but I hope for this to be a discussion as well.



What is with people joining and working so hard to try and fit in with a new group? When you joined this forum (especially those of you with high post counts) did you try to do extra things to please people or did you just help when you could and chat the rest of the time? I am the sort of person who can make friends with anyone who does not have a closed mind because I have a likable personality. I don't try to make friends. I just be myself. I see others though who try so hard. I don't know if they join hoping to become popular quickly, or if they are jerks but want others to agree with their forced opinions.

What is with the need for people to try and work hard to be well-known and popular? Why do these same people get so angry when they don't receive the popularity that they feel they deserve?

[Agozer]

What is with the need for people to try and work hard to be well-known and popular? Why do these same people get so angry when they don't receive the popularity that they feel they deserve?

Because many people feel the need to be accepted and respected. Getting to be well-known and popular means to be of important status.

And if you feel important, you're at the top of the world (or internet, whichever fits in this case).

Some people just can't take even constructive criticism too well, because when they get somekind of negative feedback it means that others do not see them as important... and that really pisses them off.

Personally, I just go with the flow. If people don't like the way I act or do things, that is their problem and they are free to criticise my actions. In a civilized manner of course.

Fuck, maybe I'm totally wrong and everybody is just a delf-centered douche who thinks that others should think like they do.

[WhiteX]

In the beggining i used to avoid and pull apart fights, i was way more polite than i am now, but then i made 1000 posts and became evil.

[Jakob]

I appeared one day and have been terrorizing n00bs and regulars alike for years;D

[Agozer]

I appeared one day and have been terrorizing n00bs and regulars alike for years;D

"Evil Bastard" is quite fitting in this context, I assume.

[Miretank]

Once I was a noob. Today still I am.

I say idiot things hoping to make someone smile. I like when people like me - that's why I try to entertain. I must say that deskmod also made Miretank to be more known around. After one year here, I've turned onto a sour bastard with noobies, but it's a chain. Once you were a noob and got owned by everyone, until the moment you get how things work and get more mature.

[t0rek]

I was also very gentle, but now I am evil too (defined by psychology as post-1000 posts syndrom)

[Miretank]

i am not with le thousand but I am getting evil and sarcastic omg

[EmuNoviceUser]

I was wondering what 1,000 posts had to do with it. Now I know! See what you have to look forward to Miretank?

I have met some severe asswipes on the net (more often on forums than in chat rooms), and the one thing they all appear to have in common when they are new and act like that is that everyone else is against them. In a way that is true. Everyone else would normally try to be nice, and they are normally being asswipes

[Fabricio_EX]

I'm not with you guys yet; 100 posts won't make me as evil as you, huh?